Common Jewish Terms

I believe that it is the couple who should be in control of the interview with a prospective rabbi or minister rather than the other way around. As a couple, it is important to be prepared for each interview. This glossary will help familiarize you with the terms used in interfaith wedding ceremonies.

As you begin to familarize yourselves with these terms, you will begin to look for how these symbols, traditions and prayers relate to the two of you personally. When you meet with the clergy, you will already have a picture of what your personalized ceremony will look like. This will be of tremendous help to the minister or rabbi. He or she should be able to weave your thoughts into the service. Have fun!

Common Jewish Terms for the Interfaith Couple

Breaking of the Glass: This custom has several meanings which seals the nuptials. There are many metaphors that can be applied to this beautiful tradition.

Chuppah: The Wedding Canopy constructed either simply or elaborately. Represents the new home that is being established by the couple. The canopy represents Gods love and covering over the family. The polls represent the support of the family and friends who are witnessing the ceremony.

Ketubah: Traditionally this was the written contract between the groom and the Father of the bride. In modern times this tradition evolved into the spiritual contract between the bride and groom.

Kiddush: Growing up Jewish, one of the most observed rituals is the Kiddush, the blessing over the wine. Wine in the Torah always represents Joy, so it is no mystery that we lift the Kiddush Cup as often as we gather together and especially at a wedding.

Mazel Tov: This is the word shouted by all when the glass is broken at the end of the ceremony. Mazel Tov means much more than, “good luck and congratulations.” Deeper studies into these two words suggest a powerful “sending forth of energy”. In a way, it is a short prayer that the "joyous energy" that is felt at the moment the glass is broken will surround and sustain the couple throughout their lives together.

Shehecheyanu: At the begging of a new season, moving into a new home, the birth of a child, the first day of Passover or Chanukah, this prayer is spoken. It gives praise to God that created us, sustained us and brought us to this joyous moment.